I think about the power of positive thinking frequently. I’ve never read the book by the same name but I’m sure anything I say here isn’t going to be any kind of grand revelation.
I believe in being positive. I think that my positive actions cause multiple positive reactions. If I feign positiveness when I don’t feel it, eventually the fakery becomes reality.
If I am forcefully giving off positive energy by my actions and by speaking positive reinforcing statements other people are eventually pulled into the energy and in turn start reacting more positively.
There are always exceptions. There are people that react to positivity with more negativity. They become morose and will start creating drama to stop the positive flow of conversation and energy.
I notice this most in my little microcosm of real life – my workout group. We have a fascinating mix of personality types and because people rotate in and out of the mix we can get extreme differences for a day or two. All of the people who are there the majority of the time, the core group, all share one personality trait. They are all positive people. I’m not saying people don’t have bad days or get sad, but they all try very hard to look at the positive outcomes of things and embrace it. They find a reason in every situation to be happy.**
I work out best in a happy full of energy situation. When everyone around me is laughing, I laugh and forget how hard it is, and put more into the workout, and get more out of the workout. Something new has started happening for me. When the workout is not full of energy, not amped up and loud, I have started getting louder and louder! Normally I’m actually fairly quiet, there is enough noise and talking and laughing that I can do my thing and just feed off of everyone else, but when there is nothing there to feed off of I instinctively now create it. I noticed it a couple of weeks ago and now I’ve started paying attention and consciously watch what happens.
Here are some of my observations.
1. It’s a part of my personality I didn’t know I had. I enjoy motivating other people and pushing them a little farther.
2. When I become the loudest most energetic personality in the room people react differently to me.
A. The other positive people get happier and become more positive with me
B. The borderline people start interacting with me, it’s as if they start filling their own positive energy by using mine.
1. if one person does this another may also do it at the same time, which can get a little odd.
C. If there is a negative person in the group they get more negative and try to engage me in a negative conversation. Describing something bad that has happened to them, or that they are feeling.
1. if I don’t engage they will move on to someone else trying to find someone who will be negative with them.
2. if no one will engage with them they slow down and eventually get hurt.
Those are my thoughts for the week.
**As a side note, all of these people have faced very large challenges in their past. Addictions, illnesses and family issues. Do you think people who are consistently positive have all overcome some sort of obstacle?