When my children were little I discovered a quirk of my personality & the equal and opposite quirk in my husbands.
If my child would come to me ask if I would do something I would say yes, immediately. Then I would think about it, and have to go back and say, “wait a minute, let’s talk about this”.
If my child would go to my husband and ask the same question he would say no, immediately. Frequently he would then change his mind when given more information and time to think about it.
As you might guess this caused more than a few chaotic moments.
As an adult I have spent a lot of time looking at personality types of people. I just find it very helpful for me to be able to watch someone for awhile (not too stalkerish) and then to a point, classify their personality. It has helped in personal and professional situations because frankly I am not above manipulating my personality to get what I want. Sorry. I am not always altruistic.
One of the personality types that I find most interesting, and for some reason pretty prevalent is the person who always disagrees first. No matter the question or topic this person will always dissent. Hey, I see you have a drip of salsa on your shirt, a little club soda will take that right out, NO it won’t. I have tried it on a shirt made of exactly the same material, and dripped the exact same salsa on it, and when I used club soda it caused a small explosion that killed my goldfish.
Here is my handy tip in dealing with this personality type. Don’t change anything. Don’t argue, don’t push. Just say your piece and shut up. If you tell them to try club soda, and they say it’s dumb, smile and move on. There is a good chance that after a few moments, they will come back and say, “hey, even though I tried it before, I remembered that the previous shirt had been washed in a special laundry detergent made of plutonium and this one hadn’t, so I tried the club soda, and it didn’t work all the way, but it worked a little.” Next thing you know they’ll be running around telling everyone to try club soda!